Since the news of their split, Bachelor Nation members have been desperate to know why Carly Waddell and Evan Bass divorced after their Bachelor in Paradise season. For those who don’t know, Carly and Evan announced their separation after three years of marriage on Wednesday, December 23.
“We have made the difficult decision to separate,” the two said in a statement. “We will always cherish our time together and continue to have the utmost respect for one another as we focus on what’s best for the future of our family. We greatly appreciate everyone’s love and support and kindly ask that you please respect our family’s privacy as we navigate through this.”
As fans remember, Carly and Evan met on season 3 of Bachelor in Paradise in 2017. They tied the knot the same year and share two children: Bella, 2, and Charlie, 1. Bass also has three sons from a previous relationship: Ensley, Liam and Nathan. In a YouTube video titled “Addressing Rumors & Upstairs House Tour” in January 2021, Carly hinted that she and Evan split because they focused too much of their relationship on their children instead of each other.
“We tried for a really long time to make it work,” she said. “We focused a lot more on the kids than we focused on ourselves and ultimately I think that was probably our biggest downfall. The kids came at the top of the pyramid and we never put ourselves at the top.”
The video also saw Carly sit in a room in her house, which she called the “divorce room” because it’s where Evan told her he wanted a divorce.“I call this the divorce room because this is where Evan told me he wanted a divorce. He was sitting right where I’m sitting,” she said, while showing off the house that was purchased in October 2019.
Carly also went on to deny that she and Evan split in 2019. “There’s been weird stuff going on about people asking me when we separated,” she said. “We separated a day after Thanksgiving.”
In the video, Carly also went on to claim that Evan was the one who decided to separate, not her. “The last two years have just been really hard,” she said. “I always told him that if he wanted out then it was his call because I’m just a person that would never be out. So, what are you gonna do? If somebody doesn’t want to be with you, they don’t want to be with you.”
Three days after their split was announced, Carly broke her silence on her separation, telling viewers how “hard” it was to split her kids’ Christmas between their parents. “Christmas is over. This is the part I was looking forward to the least because Evan came and got the kids and they’re gonna be so happy and they’re gonna have so much fun but Charlie has never slept at anybody else’s house before. It’s not even like I’m worried about him, it’s just hard being away from him,” she said while crying. “It’s so stupid. I just feel alone, honestly…It’s just hard.”
She continued, “I know this is the new normal but it just doesn’t feel normal. It feels awful…This is a weird week for me because, most of you know, Evan and I are getting a divorce…I don’t know how to do Christmas alone.”
Carly also opened up about her divorce in an Instagram post on Christmas, where she told fans that the holiday wasn’t what she expected. “Merry Christmas,” she wrote. “Christmas Day isn’t what I had expected this year. The three of us. The new normal. Which feels incredibly abnormal, and actually very sad. A lot of you kind people have asked if I’m ok. And I want to say I am, but I’m not. I will be though.”
She continued, “Today is the first day that both kids are staying at Evan’s house overnight. I feel like I’m missing a piece of my soul. I’m literally just sitting by myself writing this. But I’m thankful that it was a white Christmas, and I’m thankful the kids all get to be having a blast with their dad and brothers. They are feeling so loved.”
It’s unclear why else Evan and Carly split, but Carly hinted on an episode of the podcast “Mommies Tell All” in June 2020 that she’s unsure if her and Evan’s relationship would survive another baby. “The other day when I was talking to this card reader, she read my cards, like, five times and she said twice that we were gonna have another baby,” she said. “I don’t think that we should because I’m tired.”
Evan then added, “I don’t think we’d make it if we had another.…We would make it for a little while longer, but…they would probably lead to different paths.”